Reason #63: Jealousy
A pair of green eyes can ruin any relationship, not just any green eyes, but the green-eyed monster. Jealousy is one of the biggest relationship killers. Its greatest victim is probably the long-distance relationship, but it will destroy just about any other relationship. It’s very sadly, also something that every single couple faces at one point or another. It creeps into your subconscious and, before you know it, drives you insane. It could be completely unfounded, and it’s mostly just based on human nature, but even the smallest spark of it could be relationship homicide.
I think it’s interesting to look at jealousy. Where does it come from? Surely, part of it people and their insecurities. Do we think that the other person will swoop in and steal our ladies? And it can come from so many different places. You could be jealous of her ex boyfriend, her male friend, her female friend who looks at her in just the wrong way, it comes out of nowhere. You catch a stolen glance, or a hug that lingers just a little too long, and the thought pops in. You try and dismiss it, but it will keep coming back. Time and time again. Before you know it you start really entertain the idea that something might be going on. Before you know it you are an irrational mess, making snide, passive-agressive comments or yelling at your significant other.You may go even so far as to break up with them over the unfounded suspicion that they are cheating on you.
There is no avoiding the jealousy. It’s how you choose to deal with it that determines whether or not you will let your relationship fall prey to it. Personally, I’m weird with my jealousy, I tend to put all my jealousy into one person. There is always the one male friend that rubs me the wrong way. I don’t worry about it with other people, just this one guy. Of course, the problem here is that you could be completely founded in your suspicions that your girlfriend is out catting around, just be wrong about who she is cheating on you with. I suppose the moral of that story is, if you have to be a jealous guy, don’t have a narrow jealousy vision, you might miss out on the obvious clues.
But what you really should be doing is trusting your girl/boyfriend. Trust is hard, but is also essential to a relationship. Without trust you really don’t have anything. I know the green eyed monster is an inevitability, but you have try your hardest to beat it. To subdue it and bury it deep, deep inside of you, because given the tiniest opportunity, it will destroy you.
Oooh this is a tough one. I know that jealousy really destroyed my relationship with my ex (but it was hard not for it to with a lot of the shit he was doing). It takes a lot to trust someone, but I think your gut will tell you whether or not your jealousy is you being paranoid or whether or not you should rightfully be suspicious.